Ageing Un-Gracefully:Does Being Alone Mean Being Lonely?

-- August 28, 2017

“I used to think that the worst thing in life is to end up alone. I’ve come to understand that the worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone.”  (Tom Allen, CBC) … Continue reading


Ageing Un-Gracefully: I Am Responsible

-- August 15, 2017

I feel uncomfortable around people my age, or any aged adults who have given away their power. And that can include codependent relationships on partners, children, religious leaders, the medical system, diets or drugs to support feeling ok. While I … Continue reading


Ageing Un-Gracefully: A New Definition

-- July 23, 2017

I don’t like the phrase ageing gracefully. I don’t find the process at all graceful. As one of Stuart Mclean’s characters says, “getting old is not for sissies”. Rather than try to put a spin on it, that isn’t authentic … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: The Grace of Abstinence

-- June 14, 2017

I had an eating disorder for many years that almost destroyed my life. My food addiction negatively affected my health, my self-esteem, my career showing horses and my marriage. I was addicted to sugar and refined carbs before there was … Continue reading


Ageing Un-Gracefully: Humility, Compassion and Courage.

-- May 29, 2017

Thomas Keating (A Rising Tide of Silence) is a Trappist Monk whose life and work I’ve studied since practicing Centering Prayer. In the above documentary he says, “At this point I don’t regard myself as knowing anything -I make many … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Aging Un-grace-fully”

-- April 20, 2017

I took a year off from writing. Actually I didn’t know it was a year, but when I looked at the last blog date, it was. (I’m becoming ever more watchful about catching myself trying to “look good” in writing … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing Spirituality 2

-- April 18, 2016

(Excerpt from Healing Food Addiction) My Body is My Soul’s Address “Keep ever in mind that each living person in all God’s Universe is a radiating center of the same perfect One, some radiating more and some less, according to … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing Sexuality

-- April 18, 2016

    (Excerpt from Healing Food Addiction) I’d been in recovery for a couple of years when I went back to college. In addition to my regular courses I studied Human Sexuality to educate myself to the broader issues of … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing Spirituality

-- April 8, 2016

When I was growing up, I thought a spiritual person went to church regularly and was so nice you wanted to puke. I’m really proud to know that even then, as confused as I was about what was Real, I … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing Addiction

-- January 12, 2016

“Addiction”, surmises Geneen Roth in When Food Is Love ,“is the act of wrapping ourselves around an activity a substance, or a person in order to pretend we have love in our lives. It helps people believe they are surviving, … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing the Holidays

-- December 28, 2015

The energy of holidays and special occasions can be very discordant. What you hope for from family gatherings, and from the media’s picture of what it’s supposed to be like, is often far from your actual experience. I’ve found that … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing Ageing

-- October 13, 2015

I don’t do well with celebrations for myself, and am really grateful for the friends who insist that I pay attention, with their attention. My appreciation for how perfectly the universe transpires to work in my life, in spite of … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing with Happiness 2

-- August 1, 2015

I am a devoted fan of the Vinyl Cafe with Stuart McLean on CBC. His motto for the Vinyl Cafe is “We may not be big, but we’re small”. I always feel happy when I’m listening to Stuart. After the … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: All Shall be well

-- June 9, 2015

I was recently dealing with a health challenge and my beloved spiritual director sent me this quote from the Christian mystic, Julian of Norwich, “All shall be well and all shall be well and all manner of thing shall be … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Everyday Practice

-- April 9, 2015

I run and workout with weights at the gym about 5 days a week and walk or bike the other days.  I’m not a natural athlete, but I know it’s necessary to strengthen my body as well as my mind … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing with Happiness

-- March 17, 2015

I remember when I was first excitedly studying natural or spiritual healing (I’m still excitedly studying and practising it) and we were all reading the book written by Dr. Norman Cousins, “Anatomy of an Illness”. It was his account of … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing the False Self

-- February 27, 2015

We children were witness to the total pretence of how our parents wanted the world to see them. We helped them maintain this image, because if anyone outside the family could see who they really were deep down, the whole system, the ship … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing Shame Continued

-- January 23, 2015

I watch Brene Brown’s TED talks repeatedly. I believe her research and the examples she talks about in  her own life are simply the best information available to learn how to work with shame and vulnerability. Brene Brown 2010 http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing with Meditation

-- December 25, 2014

Whether you are looking for more peace or less stress in your life, meditation could be a part of the solution. “Stay out of your head, it’s a bad neighborhood” is a quote that I particularly like since it so … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing with Hope

-- December 14, 2014

The Hope Button After taking some winter clothes to the YWCA women’s shelter the other day, I walked out behind a woman who was leaving the building in the same direction as I; down the walkway towards the corner sidewalk … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness; Healing Impending Doom

-- November 20, 2014

I love the phrase “impending doom” as it so accurately describes my orientation to life from early childhood. I learned it in the 12 Step Program as a way of identifying the negative/fearful mindset that led to addiction as a … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing People-Pleasing

-- November 10, 2014

It was such a relief when I heard the term “people-pleasing” when I began recovery work. It explained, perfectly how I had lived my life; abandoning myself in order to be or do what I thought others wanted me to … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing Love

-- October 29, 2014

I’ve begun a practice of setting the intention to fall in love on a daily basis. I ask for Spirit’s help to notice and attract the people, animals, flowers, creatures and/or situations that co-create that experience. The other morning, as … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing Communication Part 2

-- October 15, 2014

Learning and practise of nonviolent communication skills has become an essential part of my goal of being authentic. I continue to find it essential and exciting. Whether it’s to deal with a person crowding me in the checkout line, or … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing the Holidays 2

-- October 7, 2014

The first Thanksgiving in recovery  from food addiction consisted of turkey and mayonnaise and vegetables, shared with a friend from OA/AA. We both had similar histories of food and alcohol addiction, and family dysfunction. It was the beginning of the … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing Shame Past and Present

-- September 24, 2014

Andrea Martin was being interviewed on CBC and she talked about  having kept her bulimia a secret for many years. Shame and “overwhelming anxiety” were something she struggled with, and still has anxiety every day. I was glad to hear … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing Disordered Eating

-- September 8, 2014

I often write about the emotional issues underlying food addiction and disordered eating (feeding something that is not your body). Today I want to address the similarity with alcoholism as it’s described in the AA Big Book, since the research … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing Shame Part 2

-- August 26, 2014

“I am bad” (shame) vs. “I did something that was less than wonderful”(acceptance with self-compassion) Separating yourself from being defined by your actions is crucial in the process of healing shame. I am,  is a powerful energetic assertion and needs … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing Shame Part 1

-- August 19, 2014

“…those growing up in abusive environments can feel downright terrified by success.  Since the brain creates circuitry patterns in response to experience, abused children develop neural pathways associating stress and pleasure with negative, even life-threatening outcomes. …..These people are wired … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing Childhood Violence

-- August 17, 2014

“If I, as a helpless child was abused and am not allowed to see this, I will abuse other helpless creatures (including myself–Lynn’s note) without realizing what I am doing”. (Alice Miller, Banished Knowledge p 170)  “Finally,” to quote Alice … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing Depression

-- August 13, 2014

Robin Williams’ death once more highlighted the silent epidemic of depression. I really loved his work, and am so sad for our loss. Stephen Spielberg was quoted as saying ” “Robin was a lightning storm of comic genius and our laughter … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: It’s an Inside Job

-- August 11, 2014

A woman is often measured by the things she cannot control. She is measured by the way her body curves or doesn’t curve, by where she is flat or straight or round. She is measured by 36-24-36 and inches and … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing with The Buddha Poodle

-- August 4, 2014

Suki was recovering from a shoulder injury. Her activity was severely limited, much to her disgust. Some days when she couldn’t stand it any longer she would grab Bob the Brown Dog (a small stuffed toy) and shake him fiercely. … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Everyday Healing and Ranch Poodle Ramblings

-- August 4, 2014

Today our intention was to go down into the valley to the creek in the Gator to get water for the flowers.  Suki loves to ride on my lap with her ears blowing in the breeze and leaning out the … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing Emotional and Verbal Abuse

-- July 24, 2014

  “If I, as a helpless child was abused and am not allowed to see this, I will abuse other helpless creatures (including myself–Lynn’s note) without realizing what I am doing”. (Alice Miller, Banished Knowledge) “Finally,” to quote Alice Miller, … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing Boundaries

-- July 21, 2014

“No” is a complete sentence. “I don’t feel comfortable with ……” “When you said, (or did)…….., I felt……….(hurt, angry, unsafe….)” “Thank you for asking, but no, that doesn’t fit for me.” Verbal and emotional boundaries protect who you are as … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing Resentment and Anger

-- July 12, 2014

“Resentment is the “number one” offender. It destroys more (alcoholics) than anything else. From it stem all forms of spiritual disease, for we have been not only mentally and physically ill, we have been spiritual sick. When the spiritual malady … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing Fear

-- July 4, 2014

Richard Rohr is a Franciscan who writes and teaches about the search for the true self. He is one of the wonderful teachers I was introduced to, as I study and practice Centering Prayer. In a recent interview he talked … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing with Compassion

-- June 27, 2014

I started to write about clearing blocks to positive expression with SRT and found myself writing about living authentically blocks and all. Everyone I know works really hard to be better; physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. I believe that work … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing the False Self

-- June 20, 2014

This week I’ve been working with how much courage it takes, for those who are people-pleasers , to be authentic. “You can’t set a boundary to take care of yourself, and take care of the other person’s feelings at the … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing Power of Self-Compassion

-- June 14, 2014

I began to study Buddhism when I heard the quote from the Dalai Lama , “My religion is kindness“. I was talking with my god-son recently about the importance of kindness as the basis of any relationship, with yourself, and … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing Relationships

-- June 11, 2014

I recently been blessed by reconnecting with a former neighbour. I was completely controlled by food addiction when I knew her. I worked at an animal hospital and would come home and binge over the noon break then go back … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing Communication

-- June 1, 2014

I love the wisdom of nonviolent communication  (www.nonviolentcommunication.com), i.e.  “when you did……., I felt….”, (rather than “you always…..” ” you never…..”, “you’re a ……”.) Emotional intelligence involves owning and expressing feelings appropriately. It’s the the basis of not only good … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing from the Source

-- May 28, 2014

The “Walking Monk” visited the city where I live. The story of one of his walks across Canada, The Longest Road, (NFB) tells of his intention to raise the consciousness of being more mindful of our over use of vehicles. … Continue reading


Wisdom and Wellness: Healing Power of Love

-- May 27, 2014

One of my first teachers said “the purpose of life is to grow in wisdom and to learn to love better“.  And I always add “love ourselves” better. My experience is, that is the foundation for all healing, be it … Continue reading